I thought of changing the name of the topic. It may be that many do not know what it means and not read further and others may be curious to know more and read on. I decided to take that chance.
The words, Ubiquitous Assimilation, sound very fancy. A vocabulary bomb, actually! I was bombed too when I first came across it, I did not know the meaning or the concept. Let me give you a little context.
I saw it in a film called Detachment ( I highly recommend it but with a strong word of caution – it is not an easy watch ) where the teacher played by Adrien Brody is trying to motivate a bunch of delinquent, socially oppressed teenagers from in his class. So taken aback I was by the idea that it became embedded within me.
I adopted my own hybrid version of this concept into various versions of my own life. More about that later.
The dictionary meaning of Ubiquitous is omnipresent or everywhere. Assimilation means to absorb, take in. Together, it means to absorb, everything, everywhere. Our senses receive inputs from all around us all the time. Sounds, sights, smells, words are the obvious and discernible ones. Behaviors and attitudes like love, respect, gratitude, kindness maybe latent and inadvertent absorption. The opposite of these are assimilated too.
We come across all aspects human behaviors, real and virtual, in our daily lives. We might be visibly inspired by some and terribly repulsed by others. Every act or event, billboard or meme, news clip or article, comment or gesture, good and bad, is logged and registered by our unconscious mind and has a lasting impact on us.
Every idea adds value, every insight adds lucidity and every negative experience adds depth. These may end up shaping our thought process and belief systems. We may not even be aware of their level of influence on our minds most of the time.
“We receive more stimuli in a week than our ancestors experienced in their entire lifetime.”Unknown Psychologist
My friend who is a conscious eater is mischievously called ‘Body Temple‘ by other friends. I want a ‘Mind Temple‘ along with that body. No junk in the body and no junk in the mind! Cheat meals allowed. 😉 Just like how it might take a newbie a while to understand nutrition desired by the body, it might take us a little practice to sift through healthy and unhealthy inputs into our mind too.
Once I understood the concept of Ubiquitous Assimilation, I became a conscious consumer of influence. For example whom I chose to meet and what I chose to read or watch became more voluntary than to just fill a void or occupy time.
Only we can determine who or what deserves our time and attention. I was no longer interested in people’s virtual lives and experienced little or no validation for my own virtual self. I became more interested in getting to know the real me. What it took to make me, me.
We all might agree that the education we receive in school is only worth it when applied in real life. We commonly question ‘When will we use this?’ The hybrid version of this concept that I referred to earlier is along the same thought.
To make optimal use of my personal assimilation over the years and make it worth it. Figuring out what is stored inside and sorting through the good and not-so-good bits. I came to realize that I had innumerable experiences that help carve my persona. The exposure to people, cultures, places, practices were observed and lapped up by me.
I applied the problem solving hacks I used as a Captain to everyday real-life situations. The soft skills I learnt from my interactions with family and friends helped me find balance and boundaries with co-workers and vice-versa. Lessons in respect and equal treatment of juniors on the job came in use while dealing with kids and staff at home.
Standing up for myself and being appropriately assertive with seniors at work and elders in the family, I learnt from my children. The mixed use of various faculties and skills across different roles helped bring together my personal and professional journeys. It was a very satisfying feeling. Almost like when we use a Math formula in real life!! 😉
When we allow ourselves to truly embody our experiences, we add another dimension to our being. We begin to realize that we may be bound by yet can rise above our lineage, genes, culture and background. You are who you CHOOSE to become!
Let’s choose wisely!
Until next Sunday, over and out! @thethinkingcaptain
Below is a clip from the film ‘Detachment’ for your reference!